Dear AskACatholic team,
I was doing a Google search trying to find a web site where I could Ask A Catholic Apologist a question when I came upon your web site.
I am happily married with my wife and we have two children. She gave birth, not too long ago, to a beautiful baby girl five months ago. Me and my wife have not been intimate since about three months before she gave birth. My wife did not have a natural birth but had a (C) Caesarean section. It took a while for her to recover and she still has some pain.
My wife and I want more children but since she had a C section it will be very hard on her if we got pregnant again. We want to wait a bit until we start having children again. We both looked into Natural Family Planning (NFP) which has been approved by the Church but she cannot track her period due to breast feeding our child. She wants to be intimate but I told her we cannot use contraception as it is against Church teaching.
She wanted me to put out during intimate times instead of having me put my seed in her.
I was not to sure about this so I wanted to Ask An Apologist that can better help me out with some of these questions.
- For better clarification, what is allowed by the Church?
- Any other alternatives than NFP?
- What should my wife and I talk about when she wants to be intimate?
Thank you and God Bless!