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Kasey wrote:

Hi, guys —

I'm a divorced mother and my son is a confirmed Catholic. My ex-husband is Methodist and wants my son to go through Confirmation in the Methodist Church.

  • Is it possible to be confirmed at two different churches?


  { Being a divorced mother, can my son be confirmed in both the Catholic and Methodist church? }

Mike replied:

Hi, Kasey —

Thanks for the question.

No, it is not possible.

In Confirmation, your son is confirming his belief in the Church and willingness to defend the Catholic Faith Jesus founded on St. Peter and his successors.

If he was to be confirmed in the Methodist Church he would be:

  • denying what he said he believed when he was confirmed in the Catholic Church and instead
  • confirming a belief in a man-made religion started by John and Charles Wesley in 1729.

I have no idea why your ex-husband would want to do this.

Certainly, if it is to hurt you; it is very inappropriate and probably confuses your son about what the sacrament means.


Eric replied:

Hi, Kasey —

To clarify what Mike said, to be confirmed in another church would be a formal act of defection from the Catholic Church. Your son would, in effect, become a Methodist. I'm not sure who has custody; the issue of separated parents and who has the right to determine the faith of a minor child (if your son is a minor) is a difficult question, but you should endeavor as much as possible to keep your son Catholic.

Given that your son is likely of age from a religious perspective (I'm guessing between 13 and 17), he probably should have a say, but this is a pastoral question, which we don't get into. I'd say that your son should be aware of what is going on and instructed in what it means to be confirmed.

If he does not want to leave the Catholic faith, perhaps he can dissuade his father from having him confirmed in the Methodist church.

The bottom line is there's a big difference between the Methodist Church and the Catholic Church. The Catholic Church has the full means of salvation available for all and is the surest way, by far, that we know for your son to get to Heaven.


Mary Ann replied:

Kasey —

Also, if the son refuses to be confirmed, the Methodist church would not confirm him.

So he is free.

Mary Ann

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