Hi, guys —
I'm a Christian who for a long time has had
leanings in the celibacy direction. It's a
bit complex. When I was a young girl, I adopted
strict purity beliefs, and then as a young
adult, I was focused more on other things,
instead of dating, marriage, etc.
I'm now older, and still a virgin who has
never even been kissed by a guy. I'm past
the recommended childbearing age. I also have
no great desire to become sexually active,
especially so late. I feel that if I've made
it this far in life without doing that stuff,
I might as well stay on the celibacy path.
I do desire companionship and close friendships. I'm shy and don't have much family
of origin that I can really turn to for a
lot of social support.
With sex and kids ruled out:
- Would marriage even be considered worthwhile
for a person like me, or
- Would seeking non-sexual relationships
I'm interested in finding out what opinions
and ideas you might have.
As an older woman, should I consider marriage or would seeking non-sexual relationships be best? }
Unfortunately we don't really offer
much in the way of personal advice.
We are more focused on the teachings
of the Catholic Church. I don't immediately
see the faith offering anything definitive
one way or the other on this question.
If I had to offer an opinion, I'd
discourage you from seeking marriage,
because I don't see that you are
interested in the primary ends of
Hope this helps!
The one thing that will fulfill you
and bring you the most happiness
is the will of God so ask Him to
lead you, do your thinking in
prayer, and be ready for what God
Dear Lisa —
Based on what you sent us, I would
contemplate the religious life. It
- close friendships
- a family environment, and
- will direct you to sanctity.
If you have a Perpetual Adoration
chapel in your parish area, sit and
pray with the Lord and let Him put
a vocation on your heart.
If you find yourself arguing over
vocations, weighing one vocation
versus another one, that's great. It's
all a part of being human and discerning
I hope this helps,